How To Flirt With Women
Okay, now that you have a solid idea of what attracts women, and what turns them off, it’s time for a few flirting games that will build attraction and curiosity even while you’re away, and have you dying to see you again. Games are a great way to build attraction and to get her comfortable because they give you a chance to challenge her in a playful way.
Challenging a woman is one of the best ways to build sexual tension and to arouse a woman’s playful side. Making a challenge to a woman can be done many ways, but the important thing is that it involves some kind of physical contact.
Games which involve touching such as thumb wrestling and the slug bug game are good for challenging a woman. This way you can escalate things to a physical level and make it fun and playful at the same time.
You can also use these kinds of games when you’re away from her by teasing her about how you’re going to beat her at them the next time that you see her. Just make sure that the games are fun and that you‟re dealing with a woman who enjoys a playful challenge.
There are dozens of other games like this that you can use to escalate attraction, and you‟re limited only to your imagination.
In some cases, you might even be able to get her to wrestle with you, which is a great way to build sexual tension. However, if you aren’t comfortable with initiating physical contact, you can always start with other challenging little games like seeing who can send a text faster. The important thing is that you find a way to challenge her and keep it fun and exciting.
Of course you can also use other games which don’t involve touching and which might be interesting and fun for a woman. One of these is the “guess the name game.” You know how some people look like their names? Pick out someone who is nearby while you’re out with your date and try to guess that person’s name based on what they look like.
A good way to start this kind of game would be to tell her that she looks like her name. Like if her name is Amanda, tell her: “You know, you kind of look like an Amanda.” Of course, she‟ll probably ask you why, and this is a great opportunity to make a remark or compliment about her appearance without coming off as needy or telegraphing interest.
Even if she doesn‟t agree that some people look like their names, she’ll probably still get a kick out of guessing people’s names with you. You can even wait till she guesses someone and make a bet with her that she’s wrong. For example: “No, that guy’s names not Steven… he looks like a Brian. I’ll bet you a dollar you’re wrong.” And of course, you can ask the person in order to settle the bet.
While this might just seem like a silly game it tells her a few things about you: first, that you’re not afraid to approach someone you don’t know; second, that you can think creatively; and third, that you know how to be a bit playful and silly. Other people watching games might involve guessing what a person is thinking just by their body language or facial expressions, guessing people’s signs ( if she’s into that kind of thing) or guessing what kind of car someone might drive based on their personality, fashion choice etc.
Of course, you might get a woman who isn’t interested in playing any flirting games with you, which is okay if you want a woman who takes everything seriously and doesn’t know how to have a good time. And always remember, the most important rules of flirting with a woman are to be confident, to escalate attraction and to capture and keep her attention using curiosity and mystery.
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How To Flirt With Women
Okay, since text message seems to be a new social phenomenon, I figured it would be a good idea to give a few tips about how to flirt using text messages.
First, let’s go back to some of the basic attraction builder’s: confidence, sense of humor, mystery, emotional maturity, decisiveness, passion, non-neediness, taking care of your body, good communication skills and playfulness.
What I’m going to do is give you several text flirting strategies which will help you to nail all ten of these attraction triggers:
When texting to a woman, you must never tell the entire story in one message. Always give her a reason to respond to your text by using curiosity. The following few examples will show you the difference between just sending a text and using curiosity to engage her in the conversation:
- Wrong: “Been thinking about you, had a great time last night…hope you have a good day.”
- Right: “Been thinking of you…”
Now, what do you think her response is going to be to the first option? Okay, and what about the second one? As you can see, the second creates curiosity and gives her a reason to text back and find out what you’ve been thinking about her. Then you can continue to give her the original message a piece at a time, while creating some mystery and suspense.
- You: “Been thinking of you…”
- Her: “How so?”
Then you would follow up with some kind of a comment about something that she said or did when you were out with her. The key to making this work is to make a reference to something that will create a feeling…
TIP: Get a cell phone plan which has unlimited text messaging so that you don’t have to worry about your cell phone bill having hundreds of monthly text charges on it.
Women have a keener sense of their feelings and emotions, so they are more likely to respond to messages which appeal to their feelings. A great way to do this is to actually use words and phrases which suggest physical sensations.
Neuro-scientific research tells us that a woman has more connections between the feeling side of her brain and the side which processes logical thoughts and ideas.
This means that when you describe something to a woman which suggests a physical sensation, she actually has a more significant experience in her imagination of what it might feel like. This is why texts which suggest feelings or sensations can create the impression of you and her being close to one another.
For example, texts which describe in detail how you’re going to massage her feet or her back, kiss her, hug her or cuddle with her will all arouse feelings.
You don’t even have to go into a lot of detail with these, just make a few comments and her imagination will take care of the rest.
Timing is very important in text flirting. Many men make the mistake of responding too early to a woman’s texts or not giving enough time between texts. As a basic rule, wait 5 to 10 minutes before sending her a response to one of her texts. This will keep her in suspense and keep you from coming off as needy. Waiting 5 to 10 minutes will also help you to come up with more clever responses, one’s which are slightly playful or even hinting at something sexual.
But it’s also important that you remain in control of the conversation by giving her time to respond…even if it takes her a while. The second you start messaging her because she hasn’t messaged you back yet or sending messages asking things like: “What did you mean by….?” you lose control of the interaction and of the opportunity to build suspense and anticipation.
Remember the sections in this book about how to build attraction and to avoid coming off as the needy “nice guy.” Make sure that your text messages take these principles into account. For example, you can make indirect remarks about who you’re going to meet or who you were hanging out with yesterday, and therefore raise your perceived social value in her eyes.
Create curiosity and mystery with your text messages by holding back certain things until you see her again. For example, if she asks you about something that requires some detail, don’t text her back or call her. Instead, explain to her that you’ll tell her when you see her next time, and don’t give in when she insists that you tell her now.
Another great way to build your social value with text messaging is to respond to her calls by texting her instead of calling back. This demonstrates that you value your privacy and that you aren’t going to be available to answer the phone whenever she calls. Again, this is because making yourself too available to a woman causes you to come off as needy and to lose control of the interaction and the relationship.
Most important, read over your messages before hitting send and ask yourself if what you’re saying is building attraction or coming off as a mere friend. Use the checklist from before to make sure that you’re coming off as more of a potential lover than as a friend.
- Am I Being Needy?
- Am I Making Myself to Available?
- Am I Being to “Polite?”
- Am I Being “Slimy?”
- Am I Overdoing it?
- Am I Being Indecisive?
Then, consider the things in this book which you’ve learned to use to attract women, and begin choosing your words accordingly. This will give you the opportunity to use texting as a tool to change your dating life…
Use Texting to Change Your Thinking
Texting can be especially helpful to you if you’ve gotten into a habit of being needy and getting shuffled into the friend’s zone. After all, text messaging gives you time to arrest your habitual reactions and to send responses which are less needy, more confident and decisive and all around better for positioning yourself as a man of value.
So make the most of text messaging and take the time to read your responses before sending them. If you think something might come off as needy, overly available, slimy or indecisive, erase it and start over. This is another reason why it’s so important to wait at least 5 minutes before responding.
Now, in case you’re feeling that this kind of behavior is phony or deceptive or that you’re not being „yourself,” here’s something to think about: changing the way that you interact with people will always start with changing the way that you think. You bought this book because you wanted to feed your mind with new information, and the purpose of this new information is to influence your thinking so that your thinking influences your behavior and causes you to create different results in your dating life.
But it took you stopping long enough to download and read this book, instead of just going on thinking and acting in a way that wasn’t getting you the desired results. Now, you’ll be taking this new information and using it to replace the old information, and it’s the same thing when you’re stopping to think about what you’re texting to a woman.
Texting gives you the option of stopping your old patterns of thinking and deliberately developing and choosing new ones, so make the most of it. The more you do this, the more you’ll be able to interrupt old patterns of thinking and of communication and replace them with new ones. Pretty soon, you’ll find yourself doing the same thing when you’re speaking to women on the phone or in person.
And after enough consistent practice, you’ll develop an entire new mindset and new behavior patterns when it comes to your interactions with women. And as you might guess, this will naturally cause you to get the results you’re after. And I’m guessing that sounds like a pretty good idea.
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I’ve noticed in my travels and with working with clients that a large majority of people in today’s fast-paced stressful world are struggling at least part of the time with falling asleep at night.
Over the years, I’ve also struggled on occasion with insomnia because of the stress placed on me by running a large publishing business. And I’ve researched and learned quite a few tips and tricks over the years to help fight insomnia and fall asleep faster.
Without diving into every single technique I’ve learned over the years, I’ll just touch on a few really simple, but powerful tips, foods, drinks, etc that I think can help you to fall asleep easier and faster too!
Here Goes ::
1. The most important sleep tip to start with:
This one isn’t a specific food or drink, but rather probably THE most important tip I can give you… if you don’t follow this one, your chances of being able to wind down at night and fall asleep fast are unlikely…
You NEED to eliminate use of devices, computers, emails, and any other work related to your job (or other stressful things) at least 3 hours before you plan to go to sleep. Using devices or computers for casual reading at night is fine, but don’t do any work that gets your mind overly activated, such as anything dealing with work or other stressful things in life. Also, even for casual reading, it’s best to turn off devices at least 1 hour before bed as keeping your eyes focused on the light from devices is one thing that some researchers are saying could interfere with getting quality sleep.
An overly active mind late at night is one of the BIGGEST things keeping many people from falling asleep. As a success-driven entrepreneur myself, I used to work really late at night and then I’d find that my mind was always too active to actually be able to fall asleep, so I’d lay there for hours sometimes until I could get my mind to slow down so I could fall asleep.
This may sound weird, but one trick that’s worked for me is to grab a book while I lay in bed on something that I find sort of boring and try to read the book in bed. Because the topic is “boring” to me personally, it keeps my mind away from things that I find more interesting, and it allows me to fall right to sleep. So for example, if you find health and fitness interesting (I hope you do!), but you find economics boring, try reading an economics book as you lay in bed. I bet you’ll get sleepy and fall asleep much faster than if you laid in bed letting all your thoughts about daily life race through your mind.
Read more here: www.beach-body.org/sleep/